In one of Fr. Jerry M. Orbos, SVD’s books — Just a Moment — he asks a powerful question: “Was there a moment in your life when you experienced God in a very real and personal way?” My answer is a wholehearted yes — not just once, but many times. I didn’t grow up religious. I wasn’t taught to rely on God’s grace. As a child, life felt messy, hopeless, and out of control. I wanted to grow up fast so I could fix the things I hated most — especially the way we were living. Back then I didn’t know it, but God was already working behind the scenes. The first time I truly felt His presence was in 2008, when I passed the bar exam. That year, the passing rate was unexpectedly adjusted — something I saw as God’s perfect timing. Honestly, if that didn’t happen, I don’t know how I would have survived it. It was a turning point that made me believe God sees us, hears our whispered prayers, and knows how much we struggle. From that day, I promised myself to live ri...
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Love is often spoken about in grand terms, but it's true essence lies in how it is expressed and received. Since it is love month, it is the perfect time to talk about love and how to express it meaningfully. Many family relationships suffer not from a lack of love, but from a lack of understanding how love is communicated. Dr. Gary Chapman, a renowned author, speaker, and counselor, introduced the concept of the Five Love Languages in his book The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love That Lasts. His work provides valuable insight into how people give and receive love differently. When applied within the family, these languages can bridge emotional gaps, strengthen relationships, and foster a deeper connection among family members.
Understanding these love languages can help parents, spouses, and children appreciate each other’s way of showing affection. Rather than feeling unappreciated or misunderstood, families can learn to recognize and reciprocate love in a way that resonates with their loved ones.
1. Words of Affirmation
Verbal expressions of love, appreciation, and encouragement hold great power. Simple phrases like "I love you," "Thank you," or "I appreciate you" can make a significant impact on a loved one’s emotional well-being. Some people, especially in cultures where verbal affection is not commonly practiced, may struggle with this. However, children learn from their parents, so making a habit of using kind and affirming words can encourage them to do the same as they grow older.
2. Acts of Service
For some, love is best expressed through actions rather than words. This could be as simple as preparing a meal, taking care of responsibilities without being asked, or offering help when needed. Acts of service show thoughtfulness and dedication, reinforcing love through selfless efforts.
3. Physical Touch
A warm hug, a reassuring pat on the back, or holding hands can convey deep emotions that words sometimes fail to express. While physical touch is often misinterpreted or associated with romantic relationships, it plays a crucial role in familial bonds as well. Simple gestures of affection can provide comfort, security, and reassurance, especially to children.
4. Receiving Gifts
Giving and receiving gifts is another way people express love. While some may view this as materialistic, the true essence of this love language is thoughtfulness. A small, meaningful gift can symbolize appreciation and effort. However, it’s important to understand that not everyone expresses love through gifts, and financial constraints should not be equated with a lack of affection.
5. Quality Time
Spending meaningful time together strengthens relationships. Quality time does not require extravagant trips or expensive outings—it can be as simple as having a heartfelt conversation, eating meals together, or engaging in shared activities. Being fully present, without distractions, shows that one values and prioritizes their family.
Instead of focusing on what is lacking in a relationship, families should learn to recognize and appreciate the ways their loved ones express love. Parents play a crucial role in shaping their children’s understanding of affection by modeling openness, communication, and appreciation.
A strong family bond is built on mutual efforts, and consciously practicing these love languages can foster a more loving and harmonious home.
By applying Dr. Gary Chapman’s Five Love Languages within the family, we can create a more understanding, appreciative, and emotionally connected home environment.
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