In one of Fr. Jerry M. Orbos, SVD’s books — Just a Moment — he asks a powerful question: “Was there a moment in your life when you experienced God in a very real and personal way?” My answer is a wholehearted yes — not just once, but many times. I didn’t grow up religious. I wasn’t taught to rely on God’s grace. As a child, life felt messy, hopeless, and out of control. I wanted to grow up fast so I could fix the things I hated most — especially the way we were living. Back then I didn’t know it, but God was already working behind the scenes. The first time I truly felt His presence was in 2008, when I passed the bar exam. That year, the passing rate was unexpectedly adjusted — something I saw as God’s perfect timing. Honestly, if that didn’t happen, I don’t know how I would have survived it. It was a turning point that made me believe God sees us, hears our whispered prayers, and knows how much we struggle. From that day, I promised myself to live ri...
Not
everyone thrives in the spotlight. Some people feel more comfortable in
solitude, preferring meaningful conversations with a select few rather than
engaging in large social gatherings. These individuals are often described as
introverts—those who recharge their energy through alone time and feel drained
by excessive social interaction. Psychologist Carl Jung introduced the concepts
of introversion and extroversion, explaining that introverts focus their energy
inward, while extroverts draw energy from external stimuli and social
engagement.
Many
introverts do not immediately recognize this trait in themselves. Often, it
takes years of self-reflection to fully understand why they feel more at ease
in familiar company or why social interactions sometimes feel exhausting. Some
may grow up in environments where communication is limited, making them
hesitant to express their emotions openly. Others might experience situations
that shape their social behavior, such as navigating school life with a small,
trusted circle of friends or dealing with social pressures that affect their
confidence. While they may be friendly and even humorous in group settings,
they often struggle with initiating conversations or forming new connections
beyond their comfort zone.
However,
not everyone falls neatly into the category of introvert or extrovert. Jung’s
work laid the foundation for the idea that personality exists on a spectrum,
with many people exhibiting traits from both ends. This concept later evolved
into what is now known as ambiversion—a balance between introversion and
extroversion. Ambiverts adapt to different social situations, sometimes
enjoying the energy of a lively environment while still valuing quiet moments
of reflection. Many individuals who identify as introverts may actually lean
toward ambiversion, learning over time how to engage with social settings
without feeling completely drained.
As
they move into adulthood, introverts—and ambiverts—often notice patterns in
their interactions. They may feel anxious about starting conversations, unsure
of how to sustain small talk, or afraid of being misunderstood as indifferent
or distant. Their social energy is often reserved for people they trust, and
building that trust can take months or even years. Once they form a connection,
however, their friendships tend to be deep and long-lasting.
But
what happens when an introvert finds themselves in a profession or lifestyle
that requires constant engagement with others? Whether in law, education,
business, or leadership roles, adapting to social situations becomes a
necessity. Many introverts reach a turning point where they realize that
staying in their shell could limit their opportunities for growth. They begin
to step out of their comfort zones—slowly but intentionally—learning how to
initiate conversations, expand their network, and engage with different kinds
of people. The process is gradual, but over time, they become more confident in
balancing their natural tendencies with the demands of their environment.
Still,
introverts often maintain their preference for meaningful connections over
fleeting social encounters. Some might describe themselves as "the most
extroverted introvert" or, more accurately, an ambivert—someone who has
learned to navigate social settings while still needing moments of solitude to
recharge.
The
beauty of this journey is that introverts do not have to change who they are;
instead, they learn how to adapt while staying true to themselves. Growth does
not mean forcing extroversion—it means embracing strengths while recognizing
areas for development. There is no single way to navigate social interactions,
and for introverts and ambiverts alike, finding a balance between solitude and
connection is key.
For
anyone who resonates with this experience, remember: self-awareness is a
powerful tool for growth. You don’t have to be the loudest in the room to make
an impact—your quiet strength, thoughtfulness, and depth in relationships are
just as valuable. Keep stepping forward at your own pace, and in time, you’ll
find that breaking out of the box doesn’t mean losing yourself—it means
discovering new possibilities while staying true to who you are.
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